Dear Courageous Leader,

Advent is the season of waiting, but not in the passive sense. It is the season of becoming.

This week, I’ve been reflecting on a framework that has shaped my life again and again, often without my permission: Order → Disorder → Reorder. Richard Rohr calls this the universal pattern of transformation. Its wisdom reverberates across every major spiritual tradition. It’s also the rhythm of adult development and the reality of leadership.

Here’s how he describes it:

• Order gives us stability, identity, and a sense of direction.
• Disorder disrupts that stability and invites us into deeper truth.
• Reorder emerges when we allow the disruption to teach us what we could not have learned any other way.

If I’m honest, my instinct has often been to race back toward order.
To tidy up the edges.
To rebuild certainty.
To get busy, efficient, and competent again.

But disorder doesn’t take kindly to being rushed.
It asks for patience.
It asks for surrender.
It asks us to let go of what kept us safe so that what is truer can take shape.

When I stepped out of public education after nearly three decades, I thought the hardest part would be the logistics – reinventing a career, building a business, learning a new rhythm. But the real challenge was internal. The ground under my feet felt soft, unfamiliar. The identity that had held me for so long slipped away, and I found myself in a long stretch of disorientation.

I now understand that season not as failure, but as initiation.

Disorder is sacred ground when we stop fighting it.

In that space, my faith rekindled in quiet and surprising ways. My leadership shifted from striving to presence. I discovered new companions on the journey. I learned to listen, really listen, to my emotions, my body, my values, and the quiet truth unfolding beneath the noise.

And slowly, reorder began to take shape.
Whole Leader Lab.
A deeper sense of purpose.
A life rebuilt not from old expectations, but from clarity and courage.

But even now, I return to this pattern often. It is not a one-time cycle. It’s a lifelong rhythm.

This season of reorder has also been reshaping my sense of calling, widening the circle of leaders I feel drawn to support and deepening my connection to the communities I care most about.

Disorder is where we meet ourselves honestly.
Reorder is where we grow into who we were becoming all along.

Clear eyes. Full hearts.
​Paula

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Each of us has a recognizable way of navigating order, resisting disorder, and missing the moment when reorder is quietly trying to take shape.

Some of us push harder to stay strong.
Some of us keep the peace to avoid disruption.
Some of us tighten into perfection.
Some of us overgive to feel valued.
Some of us perform our way through uncertainty.
Some of us amplify emotion in search of meaning.
Some of us withdraw to stay protected.
Some of us overprepare to feel secure.
Some of us escape into possibility to outrun pain.

These patterns once kept us safe. But they can also keep us stuck.

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If this feels like a doorway, I’d be honored to walk with you.

Suzanne Stabile