Making Room, Part I: Gratitude as Grounding

Dear Courageous Leader,

Today, as I sit with a cup of coffee and the quiet hum of the holiday morning, I’m reminded that Thanksgiving isn’t just a date on the calendar. It's a posture of the heart. A chance to pause, notice what’s true, and give thanks for the people and experiences that have shaped us.

This year, I find myself especially moved by the abundance in my life. By the values and grounding my parents instilled in me. By the humor and tenderness of my blended family. By the gift of being a stepmom in a constellation that looks nothing like a traditional story but holds beauty all its own. And by my mom, whose presence in my life continues to be one of my greatest joys.

I’m grateful for the little paws that follow me around the house, for the trips that have expanded my spirit, and for the colleagues, partners, and new friends who’ve walked with me through this year of building Whole Leader Lab. Being surrounded by people who believe in you, even when you’re still learning to believe in yourself, is a sweet kind of grace.

Over the last five years, I’ve also rediscovered my faith. There was no dramatic turning point, just a steady returning, a gradual reorientation of my soul. And as Thanksgiving gives way to Advent this Sunday, I find myself holding Richard Rohr’s reminder that gratitude and preparation belong together. Gratitude roots us in what is. Advent prepares us for what might be.

For leaders, especially the ones carrying invisible weight, this season offers a rare chance to slow down, turn inward, and make room. Room for clarity. For hope. For renewal. For purpose.

Gratitude grounds us. Advent reorients us.
And over the next four weeks, I’m inviting you into a journey that weaves both.

Clear eyes. Full hearts.
Paula

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Field Report: Gratitude as Grounding

Gratitude isn’t soft. It’s stabilizing. It’s fuel.

Neuroscience calls this the “broaden and build” effect, gratitude literally expands our capacity to think more creatively and respond more intentionally. Rohr would say it’s the doorway to presence. And in my experience coaching leaders, gratitude is one of the most underutilized leadership tools we have.

My clients often live in two archetypal worlds. Maybe you’ll recognize them:

There's the leader who’s constantly holding the center for everyone else, trying to manage up, down, and sideways while rarely having space for her own clarity.
And there’s the leader who carries huge responsibility with very little oxygen, relying on intellect and competence to push through complexity, but quietly longing for meaning, purpose, and renewal.

I call them “Quinn” and “Ellis”, not to box anyone in, but to name the lived experiences so many leaders share. Quinn and Ellis are composites of the people I work with every day: purpose-driven leaders who care deeply, think broadly, and are carrying far more than the world sees.

What I’ve learned is this:

As it did for me, gratitude shifts everything for them.
It loosens the grip of scarcity.
It creates emotional room to breathe.
And it reconnects leaders to what matters most, before they make high-stakes decisions or step into a new chapter.

As you move through this holiday weekend, consider pausing to name the people, experiences, and small joys that have shaped your year. This isn’t sentimental. It’s strategic. Gratitude is the first step toward making room for what’s next.

This Sunday, Advent begins, a season of intentional anticipation. Not the frantic “holiday preparation” kind. The quiet, meaningful kind that teaches us to watch, listen, and become available to transformation.

Over the weeks ahead, I’ll share reflections to guide us through the themes of Advent. And I’ll also introduce an offering I’m deeply excited about for leaders who want to begin 2026 with clarity and inner alignment: Aligned by Design.

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Spotlight on Whole Leader Lab Services: Aligned by Design

Aligned by Design — Begin the New Year with Clarity and Confidence

As we step into this season of reflection and anticipation, I’m opening additional spots in January for Aligned by Design, my three-session leadership experience built around the Integrative9 Enneagram.

This offering is designed for leaders who want to enter 2026 grounded in clarity—clear about who they are, how they operate under pressure, and what it looks like to lead with greater presence, courage, and alignment. It’s a focused and deeply personal coaching journey that helps you reconnect with what truly drives your leadership so you can move into the new year with purpose and steadiness.

For those who secure their spot before December 31, you’ll receive the 2025 seasonal rate of $797 (regularly $997)—a meaningful savings and an intentional investment in your own development.

Beginning in 2026, as I expand the tools and integration practices within this experience, the standard rate will increase to $1,197. If this work has been on your heart or your horizon, this is a beautiful moment to say yes and reserve your place.

👉 Book a complimentary clarity call with me, learn more, and secure your spot if it's a good match.

Dispatch Toolkit

Try This: The Gratitude Reset
This weekend, write down five things from this year that formed you.
Then add one sentence on how each gift is preparing you for what’s next.
This simple practice draws a line between gratitude and purpose, and leaders underestimate its power.

A resource for this season:

Everything Belongs by Richard Rohr is a profound companion for leaders navigating transition, reinvention, or renewal.
🎧 Podcast: “Catching Up with Richard Rohr” — Everything Belongs
In this intimate conversation recorded at his hermitage, Richard Rohr reflects on turning 80, the gift of unhurried time, and the spiritual practice that now defines his days: gazing—a long, loving look at the real. He shares how true prayer emerges not from striving but from presence, and why learning to see without judgment (“not glaring or glancing, but gazing”) transforms how we experience God, ourselves, and the world. It’s a gentle, honest invitation to slow down, pay attention, and remember that everything belongs—even the parts of us we’re still learning to love.

Connect & Engage

What are you most grateful for this year, not the obvious things, but the quiet gifts that surprised you?
I’d love to hear from you. Reply and share with me. I read your replies personally and would love to know your better.

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Wishing you a grounded, grateful start to Advent.

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“Gratitude opens the door to the power, the wisdom, and the creativity of the universe.”

Deepak Chopra

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